A Modesty Question.....

I had someone e-mail me a question. She has been reading our blog for a while and noticed that all of us girls wear skirts in the pictures, and I am always excited to answer questions of why and how we do things around here, so I wanted to share with you all the answer I gave her as you might wonder about that too. The scripture says we are to be set apart, not to be conformed to this worlds system, that we are a peculiar people, that we are strangers and pilgrims and so if we are given these titles, it seems fitting to carry these truths out in our daily lives......

Hello ********,

Thanks for asking, and yes we do wear skirts all the time. This could be lengthy so prepare yourself. I will share my testimony of this. When Terry and I married I wore jeans and shorts like most. After the boys were born and we were around families and especially this one family that was a big influence and through this family I saw a testimony of modesty. I guess the real clincher for me was the scripture in the old testament that talks about a woman not putting on man’s clothing (jeans) was what brought the conviction and that was in 1993. I shared with Terry these thoughts and that I wanted to start wearing skirts/dresses on a reg. basis’s and for our girls too, so we did. Now as the boys got older and they were around 12 years old there was another season of change, up to this point I wore t-shirts, and they were not necessarily too tight but enough to show a form or shape. I noticed that one of the twins would not make eye contact with me over a period of time and finally had a talk with him and I was being a stumbling block to him, so at that point us girls started wearing more of a blouse or button down the front shirt. For our family these changes have never hindered our abilities or caused us not to be able to perform chores or participate in sports here with our family. There are some scriptures that we base our convictions on. I will give the ref. as I am not a good typer so if you could look them up Prov.31:10-11 and Prov.5:19 this talks about not being spoiled and this was a verse that I felt backed up our ideas of wearing blouses instead of t-shirts. In Prov. 5 it talks about our husbands are the ONLY ones that are to be ravished with our breasts and if we wear tight t-shirts that show our form other men are seeing what’s behind the clothes and therefore in one sense we are getting spoiled. Other scriptures I Cor. 6:20, a principle here tells us we are not our own and to glorify God in our bodies and spirit. So to me we can say adorn our outward bodies to please the Lord for who he created us to be and to show that we are grateful for his workmanship of being a woman. Col.1:21 talks about being reconciled, that means to change thoroughly from, I am a new creature in Christ so why would I wear old garments of the old nature. You have to understand that these are principles here that can be applied to modesty. Col.3:3- talks about how we are HID with Christ in God, here we can draw a principle of how we need to be hid behind clothing that does not draw attention to parts of our bodies and like to the top with tight t-shirts or tight jeans. I Thes. 4:6. This talks about how we need not defraud another, defraud means placing desires in others that we can not rightfully fulfill. Like if we stir up other men by the way we dress, we are defrauding them. I Tim.2:9. This is a command here telling us to adorn ourselves in modest apparel. There are some who see this scripture as referring to a long flowing garment. These are some basic ones here, maybe a start for you to study and meditate upon. I hope this has not blown you away but I feel like it is the truth of scripture and as the scripture says to be a Berean and search and see if these things be so. Blessings and may the Lord grow each of us to be more like him even by our adornment. An excellent resource on this topic is Cathy Corle’s book “What in the world should I wear?”.

Cindy Morris